How to help and alcoholic family member who doesn't want help

While I was checking our latest listings on Google, this morning, I found a listing entitled “How to help an alcoholic family member that won’t help themselves.” You can read the post I’m speaking of by clicking here.

The answer to the question of how to help an alcoholic family member who won’t help themselves, in this reference, was “nothing, unless they are willing.” While I will agree that there is nothing that you will say, and it most cases, no emotional actions that are going to trigger an alcoholic family member to make a change (simply because they see their pain as deeper than yours), I can’t agree that there is nothing that you can do, because there is.

The more I learn about life the more I realize how we react and respond to the drama in the lives of those we love plays an ABSOLUTE role in HOW any situation plays out. If you think about it, those who have become dependent on drugs and alcohol have simply incorporated the abuse of a substance into their life story. How we react and respond to their story has a direct impact on how that story plays out, because in their mind, we are probably part of that story in one way or another.

Addiction feeds the ego and deep down inside of everyone who is dependent on alcohol or drugs is the actual person, the being who is NOT the body and NOT the mind. The true “I” in the person you love. I believe that addiction is a condition of the mind, the body and the ego and knowing that gives you an advantage pertaining to how to help an alcoholic family member who doesn’t want help.

So, because of the fact that addiction is a condition of the mind, body and ego and not the true “I” of the person you love then I don’t believe it’s possible for the true “I” not to want help. The true nature of the “I” in everyone is life and life abundantly. Addiction basically imprisons the true “I” when the mind, the ego and the addiction have taken over.

If you are willing to recognize this as the truth then how to react and respond to the drama of the alcoholic family member is to simply not react or respond at all. The ego of the alcoholic or drug addicted family member is feeding on your responses and reactions. The true nature ego is selfishness so when you plead, beg, cry or show negative emotion then the ego inside of the addict is winning. If you want to take the power away from the ego then do not give it place in any circumstance.

What am I saying? I’m saying that when it comes to dealing with any situation in life do not play into the drama. There is a very real power when it comes to the state of Zen, if you are willing to apply it to your life. You will be amazed at how many conditions, situations and circumstance will quickly fall away when you live your life in the Now and recognize exactly what is taking place and how ego fights for survival.

Regarding the original question of “How to help an alcoholic family member who doesn’t want help?” Don’t react or respond to the drama. I don’t mean to over simplify because I am completely aware of what addiction can mean on all levels. I understand the violence that can come about… I get it, I’ve been there. But I believe, wholeheartedly, that your actions and reactions will begin to have a major impact on the situation when you DO NOT give ego its’ place in the situation.

To learn more please take the time to read “The Power Of Now” and “The New Earth” by Ekhart Tolle

God bless!

Rex

how to help an alcoholic family member

how to help an alcoholic family member

how to help an alcoholic family member